About Me

Victoria Kirby (she/her) BA (honours), Msc, Msc, MBACP (Accred)

I have a Masters in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich and a Masters in Public Health from Leeds Metropolitan University. I studied Psychology at the University of Newcastle and received a BA Honours degree.

After training in integrative therapy at the University of Greenwich, I completed the Internal Family Systems (IFS) training accredited by the IFS Institute.

I am an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Learn more about my therapeutic approach here.

For a number of years, I worked for a large teaching hospital in central London, where I coordinated a specialist counselling service supporting people with issues related to sex, sexuality and sexual diversity.

I now offer sex and relationship therapy in my private practice. I have an advanced accreditation as a Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist awarded by Pink Therapy. I practice queer affirmative therapy. I work with individuals, couples and multi-partnerships. I have completed the Internal Family Systems Couple’s training approved by the IFS Institute and the Gottman Institute relationships training levels one and two.

In addition to my core training, I have undertaken additional CDP training courses in Mindfulness, Compassion Focused Therapy, Polyvagal Theory, Hakomi body psychotherapy, Working with Non-monogamy and Working with Kink. I have completed Transformational Skills Facilitator training and meditation teacher training. I have undertaken the full EMDR training accredited by the EMDR Association UK. I incorporate an understanding of the impact of trauma on the nervous system and the importance of nervous system regulation in both my individual and couples’ work.

I design training and resources for other professionals.

Before training as a therapist, I worked in public health roles within the NHS. I was the Sex and Relationships Young People’s Lead in South West Yorkshire, and later a Senior Sexual Health Promotion Specialist in South London, where I led on work with men who have sex with men (MSM) and gender-diverse people assigned male at birth. In these roles, I developed and delivered training, contributed to policy and strategy, created educational materials, and led campaigns aimed at improving both sexual and mental health.

This work was grounded in a commitment to addressing health inequalities and gave me a deep understanding of how social and political factors shape both physical and psychological wellbeing. I bring this awareness into my therapeutic practice, supporting clients with a sensitivity to the broader contexts that influence their lives.

Learn more about my fees and location, and contact me to inquire about my availability if you are interested in working together.