About Me

Victoria Kirby BA (honours), Msc, Msc, MBACP (Accred)

I have a Master’s in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich and a Master’s in Public Health from Leeds Metropolitan University. I studied Psychology at the University of Newcastle, where I received a BA Honours degree.

After completing integrative therapy training at the University of Greenwich, I went on to complete Internal Family Systems (IFS) training, accredited by the IFS Institute.

I later completed the IFS Couples Training approved by the IFS Institute and the Gottman Institute’s Level 1 and Level 2 relationship training.

I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

You can learn more about my therapeutic approach here.

Before moving into my private practice full time, I worked for a large teaching hospital in central London, where I coordinated a specialist counselling service supporting people with issues related to sex and sexuality.

I now offer sex and relationship therapy to individuals and couples therapy, including to people in multi-partner relationships.

In addition to my core training, I have undertaken a range of CPD courses, including Mindfulness, Compassion-Focused Therapy, Polyvagal Theory, Hakomi body psychotherapy, breathwork and EMDR. While these are not my core modalities, I integrate principles from each, particularly in relation to body-based work and trauma processing. I incorporate an understanding of the impact of trauma on the nervous system and the importance of self- and co-regulation into both my individual and couples work.

I have undertaken extensive training and development in affirmative approaches to working with sexual, gender and relationship diversity, and I am continuing my own self-development in bringing affirmative approaches to working with neurodiversity.

I have trained in group facilitation, including in meditation, conscious touch practices, and sexual health education. Alongside my clinical practice, I design training courses and educational resources for therapists and other professionals.

Before training as a therapist, I worked in public health roles within the NHS. I was the Sex and Relationships Young People’s Lead in South West Yorkshire, and later a Senior Sexual Health Promotion Specialist in South London, where I led on work with men who have sex with men (MSM) and people assigned male at birth.

In these roles, I developed and delivered training, contributed to policy and strategy, created educational materials, and led campaigns aimed at improving sexual and mental health. I designed sex and relationship education programmes focusing on topics such as healthy relationships and consent and delivered professional training to practitioners working in health, social care and education, including on LGBTQ+ inclusion, sexualised drug use, HIV, pornography and sexual pleasure. My work was grounded in a commitment to addressing health inequalities and gave me a deep understanding of how social, cultural, and political factors shape physical and psychological wellbeing. I bring this perspective into my therapeutic practice, helping clients make sense of their experiences within the wider contexts of their lives.

Learn more about my fees and location, and contact me to enquire about my availability if you are interested in working together.